Critics come in many forms. But what they all seem to have in common is an ability to get inside your head. In fact, they can be the consummate squatters of the mind: They move in and take over, and the only way you will get rid of them is to evict them.
But this is easier said than done. Humans are social creatures who rely on the cooperation of others. We need feedback, both positive and negative, to help us negotiate life’s tasks and relationships.
If, however, you are encountering a continual barrage of negative feedback, it tends to take over your thoughts and affect your behaviour. This, left unchecked, will either drive you into depression or make you drive everyone else to distraction.
Remember, “the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension” (Philippians 4:7) that scripture promises, is not reserved for a lucky few. It is this peace that “will guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus”; especially when your critics are trying to take up residence in your head.
To beat the critics, there are a few things you must accept:
Firstly, the real world is full of critical people. You will have to learn how to handle opposition to your ideas and actions. They are not going away.
Secondly, you must be open to critique. This is because you are not perfect. You need both instruction and correction, otherwise, you will become stunted in your spiritual growth.
Thirdly, you must admit that some people you know are just negatively disposed towards life. There are some, sadly, who may still be that way decades from now. Love them, pray for them, learn from them, but do not let them live rent-free in your head—move on in the Lord!
Finally, if you would like to spend time in the heads of others, let it be as an invited guest. Copy Jesus; He is very good at it!
John Staiger
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