This is something for us to avoid at all cost.
That cost is the cost of change.
Change is our ability to deal with others outside of our comfort zone.
44 Now he who was betraying Him had given them a signal, saying, “Whomever I kiss, He is the one; seize Him and lead Him away [a]under guard.” 45 After coming, Judas immediately went to Him, saying, “Rabbi!” and kissed Him. 46 They laid hands on Him and seized Him.